Why so anal?

Why are parents of children with special needs so rude at times over the most trivial things? Why are people with special needs as well? Why do parents of special needs seem to bicker and fight amongst themselves?

I am asked this by others (NT) sometimes and it is a hard thing to explain so they will understand. The only way I can hope for them to comprehend this is to let them know how it is raising a child with special needs day in and day out and how hard it is to cope with that huge responsibility. When you have a child with special needs there seems to be an endless supply of problems that crop up: school, sensory issues, OCD, poor social and daily living skills, health concerns, etc. Something always seems to happen when you least expect it and just when you think everything is okay, something else hits the fan with vengeance and you have to deal with that situation ASAP. This crappy phenomenon is a never ending vicious cycle that all parents seem to face day in and day out when they have a child with special needs. Some days you have had enough and something ticks you off and you just lash out without thinking of the consequences. As for people with special needs, I can only just imagine how it is for them and the frustrations they must face each and every day.

Why do parents of children with special needs seem to bicker and fight amongst themselves? Why can’t they get along? They fight over which diet to use, what therapy is best, how children acquire their disability, how to teach children with special needs, the cure, etc. The list goes on and on. If you had a child with special needs, wouldn’t you want what is best for him/her? Wouldn’t you want to be the best parent and help your child? Of course and when trying to achieve this sometimes you forget that others have the right to what they want for their child and what works for them, might not work for you.